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[Love and Advice] How to keep your guy

By Shenita Dickens on May 14, 2017 in Love and Advice , Mature - 0 Comments

How to keep your guy

There are plenty of beautiful ladies out there who are probably not having any problems with picking up guys or maybe you are dating with no problems at all. That’s great of you are wanting to stay on the dating scene, good for you.  This one, however,  is for my ladies out there who are having issues holding on to the guy you feel is your “One” after you have dated for a while.

We have put together a very good list of do’ s and do not’s for you to follow in order for you to put not the physical chains, but the psychological chains on him so that he wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.

Keep him challenged mentally.

Being connected mentally with the guy you are after or with is one of the most important things you can do to keep him where you need him… right besides you.

In order for you to do this, you will have to keep in mind the things that he is interested in and find out more about these things, especially if they are not things that you both hold in common. I mean if this is someone you plan to be with for a long period of time then you might as well learn to connect with him.

Knowing what challenges your guy is pertinent to keeping this guy,  because if you know what challenges him this gives you the opportunity to assist in helping him in meeting these challenges.  This approach is by no means to be taken as a competitive one but to be more of the help meet.

Play his games with him

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Guys have certain things or they find things to do to preoccupy themselves with when they’re in between real life activities such as family, work, school, etc… These activities that they use to occupy themselves with may include watching sports, playing video games, building things, making music, or maybe they smoke marijuana as a past time. Either way, those are times that you yourself can become a part of, if you are willing to learn about his interests.

Playing his game with him is not to sound as if you are being played or playing with him emotionally and that you are to engage a psychological war against him, NO. What is meant by playing his game with him is just that.

Find a past time that he enjoys and partake in it. If he is a weed or pot head, then instead of having him leave the house to smoke with his other friends, in order to be around other who are doimg the same things, you should instead smoke a joint or two with him every now and then. That alone can change the whole dynamics of his thought process. You will notice the look on his Eye now shows one of relief or a sense of peace. If you won’t Or can’t smoke with him because of whatever reason, keep him entertained while he does,  Or at least learn how to roll a blunt and have it ready for when he’s ready. Especially if you are in a  relationship where smoking was something that you were both participating in together.

Pillow talk and Body actions 

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Most guys are physically sexual beings… meaning that 75 to 85 percent of the time they have some sort of sexual thoughts going through their heads. Knowing what to say or how to say things, and even the tone of your voice can ensure that you get the results that you are seeking from your guy and the amount of free time that he has, he would not mind spending with you.

When I refer to bedroom or pillow talk, it is not something to only be implemented in this area of your life, but to become your life. Speaking in tones of seduction is like a music to the ears of the male… or any species for that matter, and as the old saying goes “music soothes the savaged beast.”

When Man and woman are genuinely connected, less words are used as opposed to before their connection, and more subtle body actions say a whole lot more. In many events just an innocent look to everyone else on the partners face can be saying “Baby, Let’s go home”.

Be his Eye Candy

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 There is an old saying that says that “Men like what they see and Women like what they hear” that I believe is very useful in how to keep your guy.

In the very large majority of first encounters with your male counterpart,  you were something that he felt he couldn’t resist, maybe it was the way your breast sat in your blouse, maybe your hips in a pair of jeans, maybe it was your smile, or your eyes who knows, but something about you attracted him. Eye Candy is not just the way you dress, but the way you appear in whatever you wear.

Women have a tendency of getting comfortable around their man and forget to continue being the beautiful women that he fell for. Being that object of his attention not only energizes him, but it also stimulates him mentally,  and hence physically.  Do not forget to keep your sexy.

Whatever you are doing around the man you chose to be with, you should look your best doing it. Keep your sexy in mind. Wear those little shorts that he likes to do the dishes, your matching bra and panties set when you doing his meal, and so forth.  In doing so you are sure to keep his mind focused on you, you will become the woman that he measures others to.

Don’t be afraid to go out to a novelty store and pick up exotic lingeries, sexy costumes, panties and stockings to stimulate your guys interest. Things like this, pleasant seductive surprises, is a good way of peaking his interest and stimulating him mentally, he will almost always have a curiosity about what you will become next and this will also enhance and intensify the physical act of love making.

The Royal treatment

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You live in a society where women are fighting for equalities in which they should already have. In that type of societal system men are often not given their just due recognition as such. So implementing the royal treatment will instantly put you ahead of the pack. A lot of men have only heard the stories from other older men, about this type of treatment from their wives, or significant other.  Men of this generation who have women of this caliber are few and far between.

Making him feel like a King, your King is certainly the best way of having him see you as his Queen.  Your treatment of him as the King of the household or kings dome  (kingdom) guarantees reciprocity from him. He should always feel like your man… ” the man”,  just as you should always feel like you are his woman. There is nothing wrong with that at all…though being that this is not about that, we have to give the focus to allowing the Man to be the Man. To do so, you should at all costs make him feel like your King. He should not have to initiate all of your intimate activity.  Neglect in doing so can lead to him being deprived of that experience and perhaps even be more susceptible to advances of other women. Be spontaneous,  be sensual and most importantly be his woman.

Before he leaves home 

It is very important that your guy gets jis space. Even if its for only a few moments to get a change of scenery or for a breath of fresh air. Feed him, feed him, feed him. I can not stress this enough.  When I say feed him, I mean in every aspect. You have to cook for that guy, make sure he has a full stomach before he walks out of that door. You also have to feed him sexually. Make sure that you have fulfilled his every desire, want and need. Do not let him leave the house without first being satisfied in the best way.

[Mature] The liquor store link up

By Amuss on Apr 13, 2017 in Mature , sect book , Short Stories - 0 Comments

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The liquor store link up

It was a warm sunny Sunday morning on the Southside of town and it had looked like a Saturday afternoon.  The liquor store where he worked was located right in the heart of the South side plaza and it was a busy day.  The store has been busier than he and the store manager had anticipated.  He used a slow moment to go outside and smoke a cigarette.  As he inhaled, he began to think about a few issues he had been having with his ex-girlfriend. He started thinking about The last time he was intimate with her. It was two weeks ago and he remembered it clearly. He recalled the sexy lingerie that she wore. As he got deep into his thoughts,  he was interrupted by a car pulling into the parking space in front of where he stood. It was a couple of the stores regular customers. He spoke a cheerful good morning to them before taking the last drag of his cigarette.  He exhaled a full breath of smoke, threw the cigarette out and rushed into the store to serve his customers.   Read More »

[Download] Put you up on it | Abdul Jabar

By Amuss on Apr 11, 2017 in Downloads , Music - 0 Comments

Put you up on it | Abdul Jabar

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Put you up on it: The concept

The idea of this song is to kind of raise the standards for young women and all women for that matter,  to demand more from who they are dating and perhaps they can teach the same ethics,  standards, or morals to their born or unborn children. At the same time let them know that there are guys out there who can still satisfy a woman in ways other than just sex. Men who can stimulate her through intellectual conversations,  and men who still treat women with respect.  Read More »

[Video] Look down on em | Above Everything

By Amuss on Apr 10, 2017 in Video - 0 Comments

Look down on em|Above Everything

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Look down on em|Above Everything: The video

The video for this joint was shot in Orlando Florida on the east side. Collectively the artists all knew that from the title of the song, “Look down on em”, that they had to position themselves high  enough above the horizon and have the camera as low as possible as to not lose any footage.  There were a few moments of laughter during the shoot as the artists were trying to get themselves in and off of the roof.

The camera used in this project was actually a Mac book pro webcam that the director thought would be a good idea, so long as there was great editing done I’m the footage. Read More »

[Video] Mister mister | Abdul Jabar

By Amuss on Apr 10, 2017 in Video - 0 Comments

Mister mister | Abdul Jabar

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Mister mister: The Video

The Video for “Mister mister” performed by Abdul Jabar for sect music and entertainment is another one of those videos that we have self produced and directed for our ourselves. The shooting for this one involved a couple of laptops and a smartphone. It was all shot in 3 different areas aound the condominiums that I stayed in or around the neighborhood nearby.  This one was shot Read More »

[Video] Ain’t putting in | Jon jon feat. Abdul Jabar

By Amuss on Apr 10, 2017 in hiphop , Kollabahz , Kollabahz Korner , Video - 0 Comments

Ain’t putting in | Jon jon feat. Abdul Jabar

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Ain’t putting in: The video

Sanford Florida’s own Jon-jon on one of the hottest tracks that summer. Features Abdul Jabar for sectmusic and produced by the young producers idol Vello. Appearances by School boy Ainzy and KoeMan.

We decided to do a video for that track because it was hot… So we drove out to Apopka Florida where Jon jon resided at the time, and we got it in.

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[Mature] The Grocery Girl gets it

By Shenita Dickens on Apr 03, 2017 in Mature , Short Stories - 0 Comments

The Grocery Girl gets it

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It was a long winter for me. Mainly because of the fact that I was laid off from my job of 5 years due to the slow down in new home construction during that period.  I was fortunate enough to qualify for unemployment benefits. Although it helped a little with me paying a few bills here and there, I was actually getting frustrated and sickened by the fact that I was not able to fend for myself as I have been.

After about a couple months of being unemployed, and having a 8 month pregnant woman depending on me,  I decided to go out on a job hunt. Something totally different from what I had been doing for the past few years. I wanted a place where I could use my social skills and managerial experience a little more. So,  I began looking through the classified ads and randomly started calling companies that I would be interested in working. After a few dozen calls here and there to a few places, it seems I have been hit by reality because they were all claiming not to be hiring any convicted felons at the time. Meaning NEVER.
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[Download] All legal feat. Paperchaser | Jay Savage

By Amuss on Mar 19, 2017 in Downloads , Music - 0 Comments

All legal feat. Paperchaser and Jay Savage

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All legal is the 2014 single recorded by the sect music entertainment artist Abdul Jabar and also features Paperchaser and Jay Savage on thos track. It is actually the first of many to come later that the three had collaborated on. The song, which almost wasn’t a song, was intended for sale in the sect music entertainment beatstore after it’s production. After a couple of listening sessions with a few hungry artists, the development of the chorus came shining through. Read More »

[Book] The 50th Law

By Amuss on Feb 22, 2017 in Books - 0 Comments

[Book] The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman

By Amuss on Feb 22, 2017 in Books - 0 Comments

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